Bcmech1 wrote:
I absolutely believe, but I have not celebrated Christmas since 2020 when my wife passed away for the simple reason that December 25 was our wedding anniversary as well. Just too hard to celebrate without her.
I read your entry here about 6 times and tears came to my eyes each time. I just have to share something with you. I hope you don’t mind. My wife passed away on thanksgiving day 22 years ago. It was devastating. We had been married 29 years. For 4 years I was right where you are. Same thoughts same dislike of all the holidays including Christmas and New Year. After the fourth year my son who was 23 years old and my daughter who was 31 years old sat me down in October and told me that they understood that I loved their mom very much and so did they. They also told me that it was killing both of them that we were not celebrating the holidays for what would be the fifth year. They said they had enough. They told me their mom loved the holidays and in her honor they were celebrating Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year in the upcoming season. They asked me to participate because nearly five years of grieving was enough. They were doing this in her honor and because of her love for all of us and the holiday season. We are Christian’s and fully believe in Jesus Christ. I said I would try since they were so passionate about celebrating. I did the whole thing carrying out all the traditions my wife absolutely loved. BCMECH1, it was the turning point in my life. I felt like she was right with us in church, at the dinners and even at the present opening. We did this in her honor and we all loved it, enjoyed it and honored her at every turn. I was a new man and felt so close to my wife. Yes I cried yes I was a bit sad but I felt her presence right with me. It was a feeling of closeness with her I had never felt since she died. I hope telling you my story may help you to at least consider trying to honor your wife by celebrating this holiday and very special Christmas season. May God bless you and you will be in my prayers. Merry Christmas to you.