Lunkers in training at Lake Zoar (Page 8): I mean more common that they could not express their feelings...

NoCal Steve Loc: Dunnigan, CA

I mean more common that they could not express their feelings

Grizzly 17 Loc: South central Pa

Andy cacciatori wrote:

We had a good day!
My buddy and I caught 15 Bass this morning and lost two nice ones at the boat.. second cast this morning I had a fish on.
Good morning !!
Have a nice evening my friend
Andy

I'm waiting on a day like that Andy. Maybe this wk if water gets right. 🎣🎣

Andy cacciatori Loc: Modesto cal.

Grizzly 17 wrote:

I'm waiting on a day like that Andy. Maybe this wk if water gets right. 🎣🎣

Hope so for you Grizzly
And you catch a lot of fish.
Have a good night
Andy

Prospector Phil Loc: CT Fishin

Sounds like a good day. Got Bites, Caught some, had Fun & Beat the storms. Son just got a boat. We've been on Zoar 2 or 3 x already. Nice lake. Brought Grandkids there Fished a little & they swam more & had a blast.

Fredfish Loc: Prospect CT.

Prospector Phil wrote:

Sounds like a good day. Got Bites, Caught some, had Fun & Beat the storms. Son just got a boat. We've been on Zoar 2 or 3 x already. Nice lake. Brought Grandkids there Fished a little & they swam more & had a blast.

Thanks Phil, it was a decent day. Have you tried Lillinonah yet? It's bigger, wider, and a little nicer,IMO. It can be a little harder to find quantities of Bass, but there are lots of good places to explore.

plumbob Loc: New Windsor Maryland

NoCal Steve wrote:

Plum.... I used to think the same thing about my Dad until he told me different on his death bed. I was shocked. I think it was more common for men from that generation to express their feelings. All the war, depression and what not taught them to be hard. And for their loved ones to survive he needed to teach them to be hard. Just my thinking, it could be full of beans

I could understand that men from that generation could be hard a lot of pressure was on them especially with 7 moths to feed and only one income. But to be so strict at the dinner table, just never understood why when i was taught that was family time.

Grizzly 17 Loc: South central Pa

Gmorn guys. Talking about feelings. I know my granddad luvd my grandmother but as a kid i never saw it expressed. Pap was a fair but stern man. The dinner table was for eating. Not much talk. My old man being abusive put a think skin on my back. Couple yrs in marines didn't hurt. I was good to my kids but tried to make them as hard emotionally as i was.I told them crying was fir the weak. I was wrong. A time came they my wall crumbled on top of me. I tried hard to rebuild but never got the last stone in place. I learned it was ok to be stong but not so dam hard. Many of you know i lossed my daughter 4yrs ago. Now I'd give anything to hear her laugh or cry. I learned in time to get it right with my grandsons. Y'all have a good day 👍👍

Fish Dancer Loc: Guntersville, Alabama

Grizzly 17 wrote:

Gmorn guys. Talking about feelings. I know my gran... (show quote)

I’m so sorry about your daughter Griz. I can’t imagine losing one of the kids.
I grew up without a dad or uncle or grandpa so I never learned to be “hard”. I’ve always been a bowl of mush. Lol.

Grizzly 17 Loc: South central Pa

Fish Dancer wrote:

I’m so sorry about your daughter Griz. I can’t imagine losing one of the kids.
I grew up without a dad or uncle or grandpa so I never learned to be “hard”. I’ve always been a bowl of mush. Lol.

FD that's not a bad thing. I think that shell held me back more than I'll ever know. Now I'm kinda mushy. That is as long as no one messes with my family. I've had my share of anger n conflict. Now chilln is my prefered mood 😂😂. I'm give some credit to FS for helping. Hanging out with all the crazy fun loving people here helps. Y'all gave a great day. Yes I chill w/o any help from drugs or alcohol. I've learned to enjoy just being alive. Good day or bad day make the best of it kids. 😄😄

Prospector Phil Loc: CT Fishin

Thanks Phil, it was a decent day. Have you tried Lillinonah yet? It's bigger, wider, and a little nicer,IMO. It can be a little harder to find quantities of Bass, but there are lots of good places to explore.
Fredfish

Hi Fred, We did. We also liked Lillinonah. Both lakes are nice & actually very scenic. We went to Highland too. I remember Ice Fishing there. It seems very crowded w/ houses. We felt like we were in somebody's back yard everywhere we fished. Don't think we'll be going back there.
Prospector Phil

Big A Loc: Mesa, Arizona

Since my dad often worked two
jobs, we didn't get to see him much, but I learned from his example - he wasn't hard or harsh, but he didn't show his feelings much when we
were growing up, either !

I'm still that way - seldom show any other emotion than anger, but only when it's called for ! Always thought men should lead by example, being strong in public for the sake of their wife and family, and if a man should feel the need to cry, it should only be behind closed doors and never in
public ! But, that's just me ?

Mauwehu Loc: Norwalk Ct

Prospector Phil wrote:

Thanks Phil, it was a decent day. Have you tried L... (show quote)

There are some great fish in the suburbs. Lake Mamanasco in Ridgefield feels the same way but was (and still is?) one of the most productive lakes in Ct. it has a state boat launch (no motors) Yup not always scenic but beats not catching and sometimes you can bum a beer!….although I hate getting yelled at when I’m trying to relax.

hacksaw Loc: Pasadena, Texas

Grizzly 17 wrote:

Gmorn guys. Talking about feelings. I know my gran... (show quote)

Grizz, we have a lot in common in the way we were raised, but we have more in common with the loss of a child. I was pretty hard on my son Kyle because I wanted him to grow up to be a responsible family man. I was pretty rough on all four of my kids. They called me “sarge”. In November 1994 he was hit head on by an old Ford Fairlane car. He was in a Toyota. He died on impact and so did a mother and grandmother in the Ford. He was 20. He would have been 47 this year. There was a seven year old girl asleep in the back seat of the Ford. My son fell asleep at the wheel. I wish I could have him here all the time and the time I did have with him I feel like I wasted that time. I am so sorry you lost a daughter just four years ago. It ain’t easy and we live with it everyday, but one day we’ll be together again and that’s what keeps me going. God Bless you and your family Brother.
Hack 🇺🇸

dryb Loc: Sharon CT

I here you about tradition, how can you not like the old ones especially 3rd generation stingrays, but you have to be better than your opponent to win the race.

Mauwehu Loc: Norwalk Ct

hacksaw wrote:

Grizz, we have a lot in common in the way we were ... (show quote)

That’s tough Hack. Losing a child is devastating and out of order. Heartbreaking Don’t beat yourself up,you were a dad. you did the best you could with what you knew at the time. We can all look back and say woulda, coulda, shoulda. If he had grown to be president he would have credited you for raising him right.
As John Lennon sang—- life is what happens to you when you’re busy making other plans…..like providing for a family and trying your best to raise a boy to a man.