mistred64 wrote:
Hi Friends, many of you have sent so many good wishes, prayers, and have asked how Cassie is doing so I thought I would send out an update for those of you interested. Cassie is overwhelmed with how many stagers have asked about her and kept her in mind. She thanks you.
It's been just about three months since this began, Friday after Thanksgiving. Cassie has been home from the hospital about four weeks now. What was so overwhelming when we got home has become routine. The wound(surgical incision) on her belly is almost healed closed. Just one small spot still open so I continue to change the dressing every two to three days. Having a coloscopy bag sucks! But I change that every two to three days and she has gotten the hang of emptying it in between. She is still taking pain pills. While the pain is much, much less the doctor says it may still be two months until it's gone. Enough about the yucky stuff.
Cassie has been talking to a therapist the last three weeks. She was very reluctant but now she likes it. I was surprised to hear her primary doctor say she has PTSD. I thought that was a soldier thing. But she said she feels her life was taken away. I say it came to a sudden stop but over time she'll get back on track and have her life back. I'm glad a therapist is helping.
The cloud over her and me is in early 2025 she needs another surgery to reconect her bowels and hopefully remove the colostomy so it's not permanent.
On the up side, Cassie is recovering well now with some pain and discomfort, especially when she tries to do too much. Still using the walker but relying on it less and less. She has been showering every few days for about three weeks and needs my assistance less. Imagine not having a shower from Thanksgiving until Feb.
She made dinner the last two nights and it was good! She doesn't need me that much anymore and that's a good thing but I try to help by getting stuff so she doesn't have to over do it. She is by herself during the day while I'm at work.
Anyway, thank you all, Cassie thanks you all for caring. This was rough.
Onward & upward.
Hi Friends, many of you have sent so many good wis... (
show quote)
Ed, glad things are progressing for Cassie. A positive attitude is important to both physicsl and mental healing. Also, as the caregiver be mindful of your own physical and mental health. You can't be there for her if you get down. As I care for my wife with Alzheimers I sometimes have a pity party. Not because I'm sorry for me but I feel so helpless at times. Then I hear of your struggles and my problems don't seem so bad. Take it one day at a time and God will be there for you. Praying for you both.