What Is The Etiquette Of Expenses Fishing With Other People
Mar 1, 2021 18:32:30 #
I don't own a boat. And there's a reason for that. In fact many reasons. I choose not to have a boat. It's not some life long dream of mine that is unfulfilled. Boats are money pits. That shouldn't be a surprise to anyone. The cost of owning and operating and maintaining one can get really high. That's no surprise either. So if you decide that you're going to take on the expense of having one, I don't think you should expect me to help you out with that, just because you offered to take me for a ride in it. The last time I went fishin on somebody else's boat it was with a member from the stage. I asked if I could help with expenses, I was told no, he would have been fishin anyway whether I was there or not. Rather than insult him I shut up and enjoyed myself. I felt that was the appropriate thing to do. Sometimes you just gotta be able to read people. But if you get to thinkin that you're gonna get the people you take along to pay half the expenses of your boat, you should get a license. And please let me know up front what you're gonna charge me, so I can go sit on the bank.
Mar 1, 2021 18:43:44 #
Maxebb
Loc: Orland, Maine
When we go for multi day trip we all put in the same amount of cash in envelope and every thing is paid out of it. I’m the one with the boat and one reason I got it was to enjoy it with friends, so I’m ok with that.
Mar 1, 2021 19:03:22 #
Mar 1, 2021 19:55:16 #
I think it is up to the individual to feel like if they are going out with a friend, that to offer and share of the general expenses is great. There have been plenty of times when you go out with "friends" for dinner and end up with the short end of the stick. While if you have been invited as a guest is one thing but to join as part of a large group is another. With my friends, we all usually fight over the check, so ultimately it all balances out and everyone is left feeling pretty good about it. Specifically about going out with someone in their boat, sharing some expenses shouldn't be that big a deal. If you are the boat owner, you have paid or are paying for the boat, the maintenance, licensing and insurance on boat and trailer, etc. etc. So offering to kick in some fuel, beer or food seems like a small thing to do considering everything but that's just my opinion. If the boat owner doesn't care, then it doesn't matter but I think it is just polite and considerate to offer.
Mar 1, 2021 21:58:43 #
Mauwehu
Loc: Norwalk Ct
I bring something and offer money too. It breaks the ice. I hate awkward. It’s easier to offer than to wonder. And you get invited back.
Mar 1, 2021 22:13:20 #
Mar 2, 2021 00:37:34 #
trlittle
Loc: Chico CA
With all of my friends, non boat owners and boat owners, it is set up in advances before going out on how much each person should ante up
State before you go out
State before you go out
Mar 2, 2021 05:53:34 #
Evil Boll weevil wrote:
Common Sense play a role here. If someone paid for... (show quote)
spot on Evil. As said by so many. The captain should not be reaching in his pocket for anything, for all the reasons you say. And you NEVER walk away till the boat is everything clean the way he wants it. You not willing, even anxious, to contribute, you're less than a friend, you're a smuck.
Mar 2, 2021 08:08:18 #
Tman
Loc: Winston-Salem, NC
MAS Fish, how is that these folks know about your lakes and go fishing there? To fish at someone's private lakes and not offer something seems mighty rude. I can't think of anyone I fish with that would be so inconsiderate, but we were all raised by dads that fished and taught us fishing etiquette just as they taught us golf etiquette. Maybe you need to put up a small sign stating bags or a small monetary gift would be appreciated.
Mar 2, 2021 12:25:12 #
bapabear
Loc: Blaine, Washington
sun bum wrote:
spot on Evil. As said by so many. The captain should not be reaching in his pocket for anything, for all the reasons you say. And you NEVER walk away till the boat is everything clean the way he wants it. You not willing, even anxious, to contribute, you're less than a friend, you're a smuck.
My two fishing buddies are both months away from 80 years old. They still stick around to help put the boat to bed. They also pitch in to clean fish. They have to drive 10 miles out of their way to do it and stick around until everything is done. I tell them I got it covered, but they were not raised that way. Sometimes I can see the exhaustion or pain in their eyes when we come in and insist they go home rather than driving out to my house. Great friends and fishing partners. I sure am glad I am still a 72 year old pup.
Mar 2, 2021 12:40:26 #
Flies
Loc: Oregon
forrest r wrote:
This is the main reason I quit fishing for 10 year... (show quote)
It seems like it costs $100 just to look at the boat through my kitchen window. They certainly aren't cheap.
Mar 2, 2021 14:00:01 #
Evil Boll weevil
Loc: Palm coast Florida
Sounds like you have to loyal friends there . And your right parents didn’t raise their children 80 years ago to be inconsiderate like in today’s world 
Mar 2, 2021 17:07:58 #
Dandad
Loc: Elk Grove, Ca
tumhoefer wrote:
I wouldn't consider NOT providing something. Buy the bait, lunch after, anything. It's the right thing to do. I agree, just ask sincerely and i'm happy. Most times i'm doing the inviting and the way I see it if I invite I should expect to treat.
I agree tum, If I invite I expect to treat. I do however, appreciate the common courtesy of the offer to chip in.
Mar 2, 2021 18:26:16 #
Tman
Loc: Winston-Salem, NC
Bapabear, you've got some great fishing buddies. There have been times after a long day on the water in warm weather I must admit I would much rather go home. But I know whichever friend has the boat would rather go home as well. But there are things that need to be done or the boat can be damaged or just can't wait. I went on a trip once that had not been a good trip. The weather turned bad unexpectedly, and dealing with rain, rough water and very little fish. We were all worn completely out. The boat owner told me and another friend to go on home and we would get back together the next day. We split the small amount of fish we had caught. We did all get back together the next day and couldn't believe the condition we had left the boat in. It was hot and steamy the next day and it took us much longer to clean everything up and have the boat ready for our friend's next trip. We've never done that since. It's not good for the boat or the folks doing the cleaning.
Mar 2, 2021 22:08:15 #
bapabear
Loc: Blaine, Washington
Not a problem here. It never gets hot and steamy. It does have downpours that wash things down pretty well. LOL Caution! Don't leave your inflatable life vest in an open boat overnight here, or a tackle box unless it has a waterproof seal. Also remember to pull the drain plug. Being lazy can really wear you out. Thanks again for the nice reply
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