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ghaynes1 Loc: Strawberry Plains, TN

smitty wrote:

b4 i answer
tell us what u said

Not worth revisiting. Let's just say I shouldn't have offered to help her with something because her idea was better than mine. How did I not know that? I know why, all men are stupid. That's why.

Papa Jack Loc: Indianapolis

I think we have all said something at one time or another and did not understand why the wife took it the wrong way. After 46 years of marriage I have been able to learn to choose my words a little more carefully. However it still happens once in awhile

1940 Loc: Arlington wa

Adam and Eve I am still trying to understand why she picked the apple?

Iowa Farmer Loc: Iowa City Iowa

Coming up on our 45th anniversary, and my wife has never told me "I'm sorry" so of course she's always right. Her mother was the same way. The longer we're together, the less I talk. Fewer fights that way. Oh well, why spoil the tradition now. 🤪

ghaynes1 Loc: Strawberry Plains, TN

1940 wrote:

Adam and Eve I am still trying to understand why she picked the apple?

Because she wanted to and wasn't interested in what Adam had to say about it.

Spiritof27 Loc: Lincoln, CA

Same reason most of us have to go see the elephant.

ghaynes1 Loc: Strawberry Plains, TN

Iowa Farmer wrote:

Coming up on our 45th anniversary, and my wife has never told me "I'm sorry" so of course she's always right. Her mother was the same way. The longer we're together, the less I talk. Fewer fights that way. Oh well, why spoil the tradition now. 🤪

I always find it interesting when people have been married a long time that there is an automatic assumption they are happy. Why? Longevity equals happiness? Really? People stayed married a long time for many reasons. Love is just one reason.

Spiritof27 Loc: Lincoln, CA

That's true, but I don't know why people would stay together for a long time if they were miserable with each other. That to me would be an intolerable situation. What's the point in a relationship like that?

Iowa Farmer Loc: Iowa City Iowa

Spiritof27 wrote:

That's true, but I don't know why people would stay together for a long time if they were miserable with each other. That to me would be an intolerable situation. What's the point in a relationship like that?

Economics, plain and simple. I'd rather stay than lose the farm.

Spiritof27 Loc: Lincoln, CA

Maybe that's why some folks end up murdering their spouses? That never did make much sense to me. I get the "fit of rage" murders, a person can only take so much. But to decide that that's your solution and then carefully plot it out and execute it? That's a different kinda critter right there.

Grizzly 17 Loc: South central Pa

My first wife would never let anything go. She'd break things. In time communication broke down n affection was none existent. After 22 yrs. I walked. 15 yrs got married again. Both had stressful jobs. Sh took hers out o me. The arguments was very heated. I'd walk away she'd follow. It got better In time n we got married. That didn't go as planned. I told her one day she should write a book. 10,000 reasons to say no 🤣. Now I get 95% criticism 5% thanks. The smallest thing sets her off. I truly believe she's bipolar. I'm n expert at going dark. She knows I grew up in a violent home. I won't live what life I have left in the same environment I grew up in. I won't fun the flames. She knows I'll go for month not talking. She comes down in time. Too od to start over. Let's i want to let you know I'm not bashing all women. I know what my mom went thru n I know many women that was in abusiverelationship. Shame people can't give unconditional luv like a dog. 👍👍

Dakoda Loc: Cle Elum, WA

Married 13 years. Got mad one day and left. She got both farms and I got my freedom. Once was enough.

Kerry Hansen Loc: Bremerton, WA

ghaynes1 wrote:

Did you ever say something that you thought was fairly innocent and somebody (your wife), got angry, slammed the door and disappeared in her car for an hour or two?

I've been married to a couple women who do this to burn off steam I guess. When she gets home, I still get the silent treatment. If I pulled this on her, she would be extremely angry.

Here's my question, is this more common behavior from women with you guys than I think?

Maybe you need to find a wife who makes you go to bed and work it off.

ghaynes1 Loc: Strawberry Plains, TN

Spiritof27 wrote:

That's true, but I don't know why people would stay together for a long time if they were miserable with each other. That to me would be an intolerable situation. What's the point in a relationship like that?

I agree. Financial reasons, health reasons, minor children, not wanting to start over or be alone, just to name a few.

ghaynes1 Loc: Strawberry Plains, TN

Kerry Hansen wrote:

Maybe you need to find a wife who makes you go to bed and work it off.

??? Maybe I'm slow.