When grief steals the fishing desire.. I don't really know where to share this so if it's not the right place, I'll learn. Almost a week ago I was fishing almost every day, it was my...

Pam Dee Loc: Seabrook TX

I don't really know where to share this so if it's not the right place, I'll learn. Almost a week ago I was fishing almost every day, it was my safe space and peace, so to speak. Then I lost my k-9 best friend and partner of 8 long and adventurous years...I'm still lost. Her 85lb polar bear presence camped, traveled, slept, was with me in emergency rooms when needed, even lived in my car for almost 2 years by choice not need,... I've walked out to the bay and attempted to fish, only to find myself not really wanting to be with others, and not wanting to stay. This is so hard. I know there must be others that have experienced this? I've lost pets before, and maybe it's my age, but don't remember it ever being this deep. Feels like the wind is knocked out of me and I'm pushing to get it back, yet it eludes me. I'm thinking I'll push thru this again today and walk out to the bay and sling my line, it's all I know to do... yet I'm not gonna lie, I'm crushed. I Pray for y'all to have a great week and make each day count! Thanks for listening🫵❣️

Gmchief Loc: New Hampshire coast

Been there 😞

Grizzly 17 Loc: South central Pa

Pam Dee wrote:

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Miss Pam belive me I know that pain.
I get so attached to my pets.
I lost Cheyenne 15 yrs ago n Willow 5 yrs ago.

I still get very emotional when taking about them.
After Cheyenne I didn't want another.
After Willow I knew within hrs I needed a pup in my life.i was 72 when I lost Willow.

You'll find plenty of pet lovers here. We've shared the losses n given support.

You have my deepest condolences.
It will take time. We'll help you deal with it. If you need to talk reach out.
👍😓

Don't stop fishing. The water n nature has a way of helping also

nutz4fish Loc: Colchester, CT

Pam Dee wrote:

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Pam, this is the right place. We care about each other, and you'll find us willing to share more than just fishing info. The sharp pain you feel now will eventually subside and will gradually be overcome by warm, sweet memories. That's when you may think of a new companion. Not to replace, but to restore.
Be strong, not bitter 😔 .

Pam Dee Loc: Seabrook TX

Grizzly 17 wrote:

Miss Pam belive me I know that pain. br I get so a... (show quote)

Thank You...I just knew my fishing/nature friends would understand...what you say rings hopeful to me. It's the "adjustment" time in between that seems impossible. I'm not closed to accepting a new friend...I think if that one is placed in my path, I'll dive in again...there are so many being abandoned. Blessings to You.

Pam Dee Loc: Seabrook TX

nutz4fish wrote:

Pam, this is the right place. We care about each other, and you'll find us willing to share more than just fishing info. The sharp pain you feel now will eventually subside and will gradually be overcome by warm, sweet memories. That's when you may think of a new companion. Not to replace, but to restore.
Be strong, not bitter 😔 .

I served them,
I'm thinking...with every pet that has shared my life, they each had their own qualities as well as quirks...they all had one thing in common, loyalty. We were a real pack. I served them, they served me, and we respected our place in the hierarchy. Anyway, Thanks for the support, the kind words, and caring. Yes, in time, no room for bitterness. 🥹

Gordon Loc: Charleston South Carolina

Gmchief wrote:

Been there 😞

It's been a year for My wife and I. Got a lot of support from my fishing family on this site. It will take time. Just keep all the good memories forever. Here is my post one year ago.

Took my blue tick to the vet to get some urine extracted out of her bladder to see if her urinary track infection was all cleared up. When I left to go home she could not walk. Don't know what happened while they had her in the back room but she would not even take any treats from me. Had to take her back and ended up putting her down. Been a bad evening for my wife. She has been in bed crying all afternoon.

Grizzly 17 Loc: South central Pa

Pam Dee wrote:

Thank You...I just knew my fishing/nature friends would understand...what you say rings hopeful to me. It's the "adjustment" time in between that seems impossible. I'm not closed to accepting a new friend...I think if that one is placed in my path, I'll dive in again...there are so many being abandoned. Blessings to You.

Miss Pam when Cheyenne passed I took a week off work.
I didn't want to be around anyone.

I could have used this forum back then.
I figured when I lost Willow that would be the last.

Willow left us at 7:30pm
Between 3/3:30am.
I felt a weigh on my chest.
Open my eyes n it was Willow looking into my eyes telling me I needed a new pup in my life.

When I got up i walked up the driveway and I was engulfed by a dark cloud n I knew I needed need another pup.

A week later Chylo came home with us n she helped me heal.
Very seldom do I leave home without her.

You're part of the best support group ever 👍

Grizzly 17 Loc: South central Pa

Pam Dee wrote:

I served them,
I'm thinking...with every pet that has shared my life, they each had their own qualities as well as quirks...they all had one thing in common, loyalty. We were a real pack. I served them, they served me, and we respected our place in the hierarchy. Anyway, Thanks for the support, the kind words, and caring. Yes, in time, no room for bitterness. 🥹

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Pam Dee Loc: Seabrook TX

Oh my gosh you guys...I truly made a good choice in sharing with you. Your stories do help...the feeling of being alone in it gets "right sized" with reading each post. Thank You all so much.

It's sunny, gonna be 70°, and the fishing report says a bad day to fish....so, since the world seems to be in a state of upside down...I'm fishing!

Pam Dee Loc: Seabrook TX

Gordon wrote:

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What a handsome boy...I know that spot can never be replaced, yet as has been shared with me...refreshed. Whatever took place in that situation, it wasn't right. I'd have felt cheated. It is what it is tho, and powerlessness stinks. 🫂's to you and wifey❣️

Gmchief Loc: New Hampshire coast

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You go, Girl!🎣

CamT Loc: La Porte, Texas

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I think these are good for pets as well as people, I hope they help a little
Sorry for your loss

Grizzly 17 Loc: South central Pa

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👍👍 We have your back Miss Pam 😊👍

Big dog Loc: Bayshore, Long Island, New York

Pam Dee wrote:

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Pam, I’ve lost so many of my dogs over the past 60 years, and every one of them told me the same thing. They know how important they are to us and Love us beyond what we as humans can understand. That thing they always told me is simple, “Don’t be alone, get another dog so you have someone to love, that’s how I will always have your Love”.
I’ve been willing to leave this world with any one of my dogs, but they want me to live, so I can give my Love to another dog and so that I always have a dog that Loves me by my side.