ripogenu Loc: norfolk, MA

I reward my grandchildren for any of their outstanding efforts in what they are doing. gifts, special trips and such. On the other hand they also know that I can hand out some heavy consequences. (their parents told them). recently one of my grandsons went into a litany of expletives in front of grandma. I told him that his behavior was unacceptable and he would not be joining his brother and cousin on this afternoons fishing trip. He threw a tantrum, at which point I told him that was also unacceptable and he would not be joining us tomorrow either. He is 8. this was last year, he has radically changed his behavior since that event and his Mom just tells him it's not a good idea to misbehave grampy may find out. Does anyone else still use consequences?

Gordon Loc: Charleston South Carolina

Sort of. I gave my granddaughter $5.00 for every A she made. She was a straight A student and about broke me. LOL. Kept it up even in college untill she came home with a tatoo and I told her I wasn't paying for tatoos. She still gets them but not from my money.

Randyhartford Loc: Lawrence, Kansas

Most definitely!
I think the type of consequences depends on the individual who is being disciplined or rewarded, though.
Some kids will respond to a stern scolding; for others it takes a more aggressive approach. A parent or grandparent will soon learn what is needed to get the message across, or the desired outcome. Whatever method is used, it must be done in love, and with a conscious effort to not discipline in anger. Even the Lord believes in discipline.

“And have you forgotten the encouraging words God spoke to you as his children? He said, “My child, don’t make light of the Lord’s discipline, and don’t give up when he corrects you. For the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes each one he accepts as his child.””
‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭12‬:‭5‬-‭6‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Reward good behavior - punish bad behavior. Be consistent….

OJdidit Loc: Oak Creek Wisconsin

Absolutely, consequences are a series of life’s most important lessons.
Cancelling an activity can really change bad behavior.

Possum2 Loc: South Mississippi

Go Granny Go.The world needs a bunch of you.

Ridleyblake2017 Loc: Honesdale Pennsylvania

I still remember picking beans in the summer as a kid. My Dad said I could go salmon fishing on a charter boat for salmon. The only catch was I had to make enough to pay my way. I knew he would take me anyway so I goofed off and didn’t make near enough. Guess who got left home? I never missed another trip after that.

Namvet69 Loc: Ohio

I am a disciplinarian, as was my parents. Our children (4) knew when to not misbehave. I would just look at them, problem solved. We often had strangers comment on how well behaved they were. There was never anywhere we couldn’t take them at anytime. You don’t have to beat them as so many try to insinuate, but make them mindful of proper behavior and rewards/discipline. Young folks today run all over parents or strangers. Society makes excuses for bad behavior. The Bible says, ‘spare the rod, spoil the child’. Life is not where everyone gets a trophy. While in Army basic, it wasn’t hard to know which recruits were not taught right and wrong.

OldBassGuy Loc: Temecula, CA

When my son was about 7 or 8 he started playing Little League baseball. They had a fund raiser of running laps around a H.S. track. You could give a set amount or a per/lap donation. Most people gave $5-$20 set amount. My uncle decided to give $5 a lap. Little did we know, he was a very competitive little guy. There was one other kid that was similar to Chris. After 20 laps, I ran out on the field and pleaded with him to stop (thinking of my uncle). He told me not until the other kid quit first. Well after 38 laps (9.5 miles) he walked off with a victory. When he got to H.S., he became one of the top distance runners in the state.