The Look! Now that I am only a few months away from 88 years of age and have been married forever, I believe I can look back successfully and offer some advice about dealing with...

Robert J Samples Loc: Round Rock, Texas

Now that I am only a few months away from 88 years of age and have been married forever, I believe I can look back successfully and offer some advice about dealing with women.

Let me explain. I was in my late thirties or early forty’s and decided I knew next to nothing about dealing with the female human. I began to research the female. What they expected, appreciated, and generally would respond in a positive manner.

Most men, including me at that point acted and treated women in a rather cavalier fashion. That is we often took them for granted. This quite often got a negative response, completely ignoring their feelings, preferences, and such. Like it or not, they are different than men. When men act in their usual bull in the China shop manner, the female reaction is quite predictable. So, if you are still reading this you might have a chance to redeem yourself.

Remember, when you are fishing you cannot command the fish to bite! Same for the female species. So, we come to The Look! Now The Look is not an invitation to intimacy, or anything intimate, it is just that she has enough interest to open a conversation. I suppose it is just a chance to open the door for a conversation.

Lets suppose you are an eligible male and have managed to respond properly to The Look. What now? Even if you are an all American in some sport, or successfully made it to the top of a corporation, it still does not allow you to monopolize the conversation and talking about yourself. Listen, listen, listen! You can tell some witty stories but make them short and positive. Again, no blowing your own horn. Let her direct the conversation and listen! Answer her questions as shortly as possible. And ask your questions that avoid ‘yes and no’ responses.

In short, the rule I found that works best is this: “Give them what they want and they will in turn give you what you want!” This is easier said than done. Many men are so full of themselves, with being Macho they find it impossible for them to consider ‘playing second fiddle’.

Back to the look! It is not an invitation to intimacy, but just sizing you up, that you might be an interesting person to get to know. If you think there’s more you had best leave that to the female professionals who sell what you are seeking! You don’t have to stare, you can catch out of the corner of your eye that she is looking at you!

You do not have to respond, but if you do and a conversation ensues, be a good listener. You may engage in a dialogue, or simply walk away. Since I said earlier that I was married most of my lifetime, I have walked away more than once. It is all up to you.

Here is one example of the typical male’s concept of women. I was early to a Rotary Club meeting where I was to deliver the program on storytelling. One of the members, a former football player asked me, “What are you going to talk about, How to get more Puxxy? “ I laughed and did not answer, but thought it was shocking statement but was typical of many men and their ideas about women.

So, this essay is a very short and minor bit, there is a lot more. If you are interested, do your own research in the female psychic. It may surprise you what you will find. Please leave some comments. I do appreciate hearing from all. Just Sayin…RJS

Fredfish Loc: Prospect CT.

Robert J Samples wrote:

Now that I am only a few months away from 88 years of age and have been married forever, I believe I can look back successfully and offer some advice about dealing with women.

Let me explain. I was in my late thirties or early forty’s and decided I knew next to nothing about dealing with the female human. I began to research the female. What they expected, appreciated, and generally would respond in a positive manner.

Most men, including me at that point acted and treated women in a rather cavalier fashion. That is we often took them for granted. This quite often got a negative response, completely ignoring their feelings, preferences, and such. Like it or not, they are different than men. When men act in their usual bull in the China shop manner, the female reaction is quite predictable. So, if you are still reading this you might have a chance to redeem yourself.

Remember, when you are fishing you cannot command the fish to bite! Same for the female species. So, we come to The Look! Now The Look is not an invitation to intimacy, or anything intimate, it is just that she has enough interest to open a conversation. I suppose it is just a chance to open the door for a conversation.

Lets suppose you are an eligible male and have managed to respond properly to The Look. What now? Even if you are an all American in some sport, or successfully made it to the top of a corporation, it still does not allow you to monopolize the conversation and talking about yourself. Listen, listen, listen! You can tell some witty stories but make them short and positive. Again, no blowing your own horn. Let her direct the conversation and listen! Answer her questions as shortly as possible. And ask your questions that avoid ‘yes and no’ responses.

In short, the rule I found that works best is this: “Give them what they want and they will in turn give you what you want!” This is easier said than done. Many men are so full of themselves, with being Macho they find it impossible for them to consider ‘playing second fiddle’.

Back to the look! It is not an invitation to intimacy, but just sizing you up, that you might be an interesting person to get to know. If you think there’s more you had best leave that to the female professionals who sell what you are seeking! You don’t have to stare, you can catch out of the corner of your eye that she is looking at you!

You do not have to respond, but if you do and a conversation ensues, be a good listener. You may engage in a dialogue, or simply walk away. Since I said earlier that I was married most of my lifetime, I have walked away more than once. It is all up to you.

Here is one example of the typical male’s concept of women. I was early to a Rotary Club meeting where I was to deliver the program on storytelling. One of the members, a former football player asked me, “What are you going to talk about, How to get more Puxxy? “ I laughed and did not answer, but thought it was shocking statement but was typical of many men and their ideas about women.

So, this essay is a very short and minor bit, there is a lot more. If you are interested, do your own research in the female psychic. It may surprise you what you will find. Please leave some comments. I do appreciate hearing from all. Just Sayin…RJS

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Excellent advice RJ. They are a complex species, and require special handling, for sure. Fish are easy to figure out in comparison. Thanks for your insight.

striking viking Loc: Brockport ny

Robert J Samples wrote:

Now that I am only a few months away from 88 years of age and have been married forever, I believe I can look back successfully and offer some advice about dealing with women.

Let me explain. I was in my late thirties or early forty’s and decided I knew next to nothing about dealing with the female human. I began to research the female. What they expected, appreciated, and generally would respond in a positive manner.

Most men, including me at that point acted and treated women in a rather cavalier fashion. That is we often took them for granted. This quite often got a negative response, completely ignoring their feelings, preferences, and such. Like it or not, they are different than men. When men act in their usual bull in the China shop manner, the female reaction is quite predictable. So, if you are still reading this you might have a chance to redeem yourself.

Remember, when you are fishing you cannot command the fish to bite! Same for the female species. So, we come to The Look! Now The Look is not an invitation to intimacy, or anything intimate, it is just that she has enough interest to open a conversation. I suppose it is just a chance to open the door for a conversation.

Lets suppose you are an eligible male and have managed to respond properly to The Look. What now? Even if you are an all American in some sport, or successfully made it to the top of a corporation, it still does not allow you to monopolize the conversation and talking about yourself. Listen, listen, listen! You can tell some witty stories but make them short and positive. Again, no blowing your own horn. Let her direct the conversation and listen! Answer her questions as shortly as possible. And ask your questions that avoid ‘yes and no’ responses.

In short, the rule I found that works best is this: “Give them what they want and they will in turn give you what you want!” This is easier said than done. Many men are so full of themselves, with being Macho they find it impossible for them to consider ‘playing second fiddle’.

Back to the look! It is not an invitation to intimacy, but just sizing you up, that you might be an interesting person to get to know. If you think there’s more you had best leave that to the female professionals who sell what you are seeking! You don’t have to stare, you can catch out of the corner of your eye that she is looking at you!

You do not have to respond, but if you do and a conversation ensues, be a good listener. You may engage in a dialogue, or simply walk away. Since I said earlier that I was married most of my lifetime, I have walked away more than once. It is all up to you.

Here is one example of the typical male’s concept of women. I was early to a Rotary Club meeting where I was to deliver the program on storytelling. One of the members, a former football player asked me, “What are you going to talk about, How to get more Puxxy? “ I laughed and did not answer, but thought it was shocking statement but was typical of many men and their ideas about women.

So, this essay is a very short and minor bit, there is a lot more. If you are interested, do your own research in the female psychic. It may surprise you what you will find. Please leave some comments. I do appreciate hearing from all. Just Sayin…RJS

Now that I am only a few months away from 88 years... (show quote)

At 88 that was the old school way,us guys who are about 55,56 figured it out early and we have a great relationship with our spouse. I have my hobbies and she has hers and we spend time together. And we know what to expect of each other. respect and love go a long way!! Just saying.

Graywulff Loc: Cortez,Co.

Robert J Samples wrote:

Now that I am only a few months away from 88 years of age and have been married forever, I believe I can look back successfully and offer some advice about dealing with women.

Let me explain. I was in my late thirties or early forty’s and decided I knew next to nothing about dealing with the female human. I began to research the female. What they expected, appreciated, and generally would respond in a positive manner.

Most men, including me at that point acted and treated women in a rather cavalier fashion. That is we often took them for granted. This quite often got a negative response, completely ignoring their feelings, preferences, and such. Like it or not, they are different than men. When men act in their usual bull in the China shop manner, the female reaction is quite predictable. So, if you are still reading this you might have a chance to redeem yourself.

Remember, when you are fishing you cannot command the fish to bite! Same for the female species. So, we come to The Look! Now The Look is not an invitation to intimacy, or anything intimate, it is just that she has enough interest to open a conversation. I suppose it is just a chance to open the door for a conversation.

Lets suppose you are an eligible male and have managed to respond properly to The Look. What now? Even if you are an all American in some sport, or successfully made it to the top of a corporation, it still does not allow you to monopolize the conversation and talking about yourself. Listen, listen, listen! You can tell some witty stories but make them short and positive. Again, no blowing your own horn. Let her direct the conversation and listen! Answer her questions as shortly as possible. And ask your questions that avoid ‘yes and no’ responses.

In short, the rule I found that works best is this: “Give them what they want and they will in turn give you what you want!” This is easier said than done. Many men are so full of themselves, with being Macho they find it impossible for them to consider ‘playing second fiddle’.

Back to the look! It is not an invitation to intimacy, but just sizing you up, that you might be an interesting person to get to know. If you think there’s more you had best leave that to the female professionals who sell what you are seeking! You don’t have to stare, you can catch out of the corner of your eye that she is looking at you!

You do not have to respond, but if you do and a conversation ensues, be a good listener. You may engage in a dialogue, or simply walk away. Since I said earlier that I was married most of my lifetime, I have walked away more than once. It is all up to you.

Here is one example of the typical male’s concept of women. I was early to a Rotary Club meeting where I was to deliver the program on storytelling. One of the members, a former football player asked me, “What are you going to talk about, How to get more Puxxy? “ I laughed and did not answer, but thought it was shocking statement but was typical of many men and their ideas about women.

So, this essay is a very short and minor bit, there is a lot more. If you are interested, do your own research in the female psychic. It may surprise you what you will find. Please leave some comments. I do appreciate hearing from all. Just Sayin…RJS

Now that I am only a few months away from 88 years... (show quote)

An excellent treatment of the subject RJ. Women are most definitely “different”! Trying to decipher a woman is like trying to figure out what color the number 7 is… Just sayin’

Jarheadfishnfool Loc: Woodlake/Tulare ,Ca.

striking viking wrote:

At 88 that was the old school way,us guys who are about 55,56 figured it out early and we have a great relationship with our spouse. I have my hobbies and she has hers and we spend time together. And we know what to expect of each other. respect and love go a long way!! Just saying.

My view also sir, there is no 1 way to make a marriage work , it's always in progress, personally I'm Happy as best I guess , My Wife is younger (6years )than I , who really knows what makes two human beings care for each other, different strokes for different folks I guess , Me , I believe in Love,,,,

plumbob Loc: New Windsor Maryland

Robert J Samples wrote:

Now that I am only a few months away from 88 years of age and have been married forever, I believe I can look back successfully and offer some advice about dealing with women.

Let me explain. I was in my late thirties or early forty’s and decided I knew next to nothing about dealing with the female human. I began to research the female. What they expected, appreciated, and generally would respond in a positive manner.

Most men, including me at that point acted and treated women in a rather cavalier fashion. That is we often took them for granted. This quite often got a negative response, completely ignoring their feelings, preferences, and such. Like it or not, they are different than men. When men act in their usual bull in the China shop manner, the female reaction is quite predictable. So, if you are still reading this you might have a chance to redeem yourself.

Remember, when you are fishing you cannot command the fish to bite! Same for the female species. So, we come to The Look! Now The Look is not an invitation to intimacy, or anything intimate, it is just that she has enough interest to open a conversation. I suppose it is just a chance to open the door for a conversation.

Lets suppose you are an eligible male and have managed to respond properly to The Look. What now? Even if you are an all American in some sport, or successfully made it to the top of a corporation, it still does not allow you to monopolize the conversation and talking about yourself. Listen, listen, listen! You can tell some witty stories but make them short and positive. Again, no blowing your own horn. Let her direct the conversation and listen! Answer her questions as shortly as possible. And ask your questions that avoid ‘yes and no’ responses.

In short, the rule I found that works best is this: “Give them what they want and they will in turn give you what you want!” This is easier said than done. Many men are so full of themselves, with being Macho they find it impossible for them to consider ‘playing second fiddle’.

Back to the look! It is not an invitation to intimacy, but just sizing you up, that you might be an interesting person to get to know. If you think there’s more you had best leave that to the female professionals who sell what you are seeking! You don’t have to stare, you can catch out of the corner of your eye that she is looking at you!

You do not have to respond, but if you do and a conversation ensues, be a good listener. You may engage in a dialogue, or simply walk away. Since I said earlier that I was married most of my lifetime, I have walked away more than once. It is all up to you.

Here is one example of the typical male’s concept of women. I was early to a Rotary Club meeting where I was to deliver the program on storytelling. One of the members, a former football player asked me, “What are you going to talk about, How to get more Puxxy? “ I laughed and did not answer, but thought it was shocking statement but was typical of many men and their ideas about women.

So, this essay is a very short and minor bit, there is a lot more. If you are interested, do your own research in the female psychic. It may surprise you what you will find. Please leave some comments. I do appreciate hearing from all. Just Sayin…RJS

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I believe you nailed it at listen, listen listen there RJ. Experience at our ages taught many of us that, and if we don't get it by now, hopeless comes to mind.

Graywulff Loc: Cortez,Co.

plumbob wrote:

I believe you nailed it at listen, listen listen there RJ. Experience at our ages taught many of us that, and if we don't get it by now, hopeless comes to mind.

The most difficult lesson for me was to learn not to listen with the intent to reply but to listen with the intent to understand!! It’s a whole nother aminal

Jarheadfishnfool Loc: Woodlake/Tulare ,Ca.

Graywulff wrote:

The most difficult lesson for me was to learn not to listen with the intent to reply but to listen with the intent to understand!! It’s a whole nother aminal

1 thing I've learned very well is I used to F#$k up and she put up with me , I'm in Love still,,,

plumbob Loc: New Windsor Maryland

Graywulff wrote:

The most difficult lesson for me was to learn not to listen with the intent to reply but to listen with the intent to understand!! It’s a whole nother aminal

Understand? NFW, but at least it's not going in one ear and out the other like it did when i was 20.

Dang, that was 51 years ago. Slow learner here.

Robert J Samples Loc: Round Rock, Texas

Well, if you are married and are moving about with your wedding ring in your pocket, you are already living out a lie!

I was directing my comments to single or divorced men.

Yes, understanding women would also apply to a better understanding of your wife. Most of my suggestions would work there. Some of us men have been living with a stranger as far as our understanding goes. Just Sayin...RJS

striking viking Loc: Brockport ny

Robert J Samples wrote:

Well, if you are married and are moving about with your wedding ring in your pocket, you are already living out a lie!

I was directing my comments to single or divorced men.

Yes, understanding women would also apply to a better understanding of your wife. Most of my suggestions would work there. Some of us men have been living with a stranger as far as our understanding goes. Just Sayin...RJS

Stranger??

OJdidit Loc: Oak Creek Wisconsin

I have given up on understanding them, I just learned to appreciate that they put up with us.

kandydisbar Loc: West Orange, NJ

Robert J Samples wrote:

Now that I am only a few months away from 88 years of age and have been married forever, I believe I can look back successfully and offer some advice about dealing with women.

Let me explain. I was in my late thirties or early forty’s and decided I knew next to nothing about dealing with the female human. I began to research the female. What they expected, appreciated, and generally would respond in a positive manner.

Most men, including me at that point acted and treated women in a rather cavalier fashion. That is we often took them for granted. This quite often got a negative response, completely ignoring their feelings, preferences, and such. Like it or not, they are different than men. When men act in their usual bull in the China shop manner, the female reaction is quite predictable. So, if you are still reading this you might have a chance to redeem yourself.

Remember, when you are fishing you cannot command the fish to bite! Same for the female species. So, we come to The Look! Now The Look is not an invitation to intimacy, or anything intimate, it is just that she has enough interest to open a conversation. I suppose it is just a chance to open the door for a conversation.

Lets suppose you are an eligible male and have managed to respond properly to The Look. What now? Even if you are an all American in some sport, or successfully made it to the top of a corporation, it still does not allow you to monopolize the conversation and talking about yourself. Listen, listen, listen! You can tell some witty stories but make them short and positive. Again, no blowing your own horn. Let her direct the conversation and listen! Answer her questions as shortly as possible. And ask your questions that avoid ‘yes and no’ responses.

In short, the rule I found that works best is this: “Give them what they want and they will in turn give you what you want!” This is easier said than done. Many men are so full of themselves, with being Macho they find it impossible for them to consider ‘playing second fiddle’.

Back to the look! It is not an invitation to intimacy, but just sizing you up, that you might be an interesting person to get to know. If you think there’s more you had best leave that to the female professionals who sell what you are seeking! You don’t have to stare, you can catch out of the corner of your eye that she is looking at you!

You do not have to respond, but if you do and a conversation ensues, be a good listener. You may engage in a dialogue, or simply walk away. Since I said earlier that I was married most of my lifetime, I have walked away more than once. It is all up to you.

Here is one example of the typical male’s concept of women. I was early to a Rotary Club meeting where I was to deliver the program on storytelling. One of the members, a former football player asked me, “What are you going to talk about, How to get more Puxxy? “ I laughed and did not answer, but thought it was shocking statement but was typical of many men and their ideas about women.

So, this essay is a very short and minor bit, there is a lot more. If you are interested, do your own research in the female psychic. It may surprise you what you will find. Please leave some comments. I do appreciate hearing from all. Just Sayin…RJS

Now that I am only a few months away from 88 years... (show quote)

I must admit I almost did not take the time to read this but after doing so will say RJ's observations and insights are pretty much right on. Each is an individual, however and there will always be exceptions.
I would have said something else to the football player RJ., Assuming you were laughing at his "smallness" lol!!!

mizmo Loc: Ohio

you have your needs, she has her needs, and your needs as a family .

Anybass Loc: Pa.

Hi RJ, plenty of good advise. Would just add, treat a woman the way you want to be treated.