Dealt a tough one yesterday
May 9, 2022 11:09:28 #
E.pa.al
Loc: Martin's Creek
my son who is 18 lost his best friend in a terrible car accident on Mother's Day. This young man has been like a part of our family for the past 9-10 years,been on the boat with us many times.
I get it parenting is tough, homework,breakups, sports but how does one have a conversation w a teen thats dealing w a tragic loss.
Just trying to find some answers,he seems ok,I let him know that if he wants to talk we're always here.
Is there anything else I should be doing. I don't think he will talk to counselor at school even tho I recommended it.
This is not in the parenting 101 book
I get it parenting is tough, homework,breakups, sports but how does one have a conversation w a teen thats dealing w a tragic loss.
Just trying to find some answers,he seems ok,I let him know that if he wants to talk we're always here.
Is there anything else I should be doing. I don't think he will talk to counselor at school even tho I recommended it.
This is not in the parenting 101 book
May 9, 2022 11:17:48 #
Very sorry to learn of the loss. He will be in shock for a while. Just keep reminding him you are there for him.🙏🏻
May 9, 2022 11:25:40 #
Unfortunately, dealing with death is part of growing up, either of friends or family. Think of all the 18 year old boys in WW II! It is never easy, and sometimes takes years to resolve. Just Sayin....RJS
May 9, 2022 11:25:41 #
E.pa.al
Loc: Martin's Creek
OJdidit wrote:
Very sorry to learn of the loss. He will be in shock for a while. Just keep reminding him you are there for him.🙏🏻
Thanks buddy,
It didn't really hit him until around dinner time last night, so I believe you're right on about the shock
May 9, 2022 11:26:59 #
May 9, 2022 11:46:46 #
So sorry to hear that, my daughter has had a tough time with friends she knew. Counseling I think helped. . But these I say kids. Maybe 18 or 20 yrs old took there own lives. For reasons we don’t know
May 9, 2022 11:48:50 #
Grizzly 17
Loc: South central Pa
That terrible E.pa. We all handle it differently. It took me 4 yrs to accept my daughter's passing. Just keep n eye on him. Most of us think we have a handle on it. Wish him the best brother 👍😥
May 9, 2022 12:09:07 #
Oh Al, what a tragic loss. I lost my best buddy for whom my son Gregg now carries his name, also at age 18. I think from a parenting standpoint all you can do is offer support in any way you fell fit. We all deal with grief differently and there is no magical solution. Your post has made me relive that moment, I feel your son’s pain as well as his family’s .
May 9, 2022 12:13:36 #
ghaynes1
Loc: Strawberry Plains, TN
E.pa.al wrote:
my son who is 18 lost his best friend in a terribl... (show quote)
Not much to add E but young people don't think about or process the death of a peer like us older folks do. Just remind him you are there for him. If possible, keep him busy without too much alone time. He needs to keep a routine, now more than ever. Just my 2 cents. He may talk to you or a counselor when he is ready.
May 9, 2022 12:35:59 #
E.pa.al wrote:
my son who is 18 lost his best friend in a terribl... (show quote)
Hey Al, so sorry to hear this.
For us believers there is the comfort in knowing that our loved ones are in a better place and we WILL see them again.
However, that doesn't make it any easier for us here at the time excepting the loss.
God always has the best for us in mind when things happen. How ever difficult those things are for us to try and understand. Some things we'll NEVER understand the reason why they happen. We just have to trust in the LORD and know that His plan is just different than our plan.
Just try to be there for your son Al and offer him our deepest condolences from all us on the stage. Saw1. Steve.
May 9, 2022 12:36:47 #
E.pa.al wrote:
my son who is 18 lost his best friend in a terribl... (show quote)
So sorry for his loss Al. Lost several close friends when I was young. It was a dark time for our group of friends, and no counselors back then. Be there if he needs you to listen, and keep an eye on him if he's alone. Try and keep him occupied if you can.
May 9, 2022 12:45:11 #
Fredfish wrote:
So sorry for his loss Al. Lost several close friends when I was young. It was a dark time for our group of friends, and no counselors back then. Be there if he needs you to listen, and keep an eye on him if he's alone. Try and keep him occupied if you can.
Tough time there buddy. All the above advice is spot on. Being there and letting him know it is one of the most important things to do. Keep him close to you.
Guess I hit wrong button - eye problem today but this was for Al.
May 9, 2022 12:47:08 #
E.pa.al wrote:
my son who is 18 lost his best friend in a terribl... (show quote)
So sorry to hear this Al. Maybe a day on the water fishing will help a little. Good luck in this tough time 👍
May 9, 2022 13:05:01 #
Slimshady
Loc: Central Pennsylvania
So sorry to hear that Al. The above advice is all I can offer bud. Just keep reminding him that you are there when he is ready to process it. We’ll be praying for you and him
May 9, 2022 13:06:20 #
Ken Bauer
Loc: Sherwood Ohio
Please keep a close eye on him. Might be good for you to talk to a counsolor on dealing with teens and what signs to watch for. Good luck and prayers your way. Death doesn't get any easier to deal with as you age either going through that here. Depression can sneak up on you.
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