Really Bad weekend.
Went to son and daughter-in-laws home in Tenn. for the weekend of the 2nd. Got to see grand daughter baptized. Daughter-in laws father and his wife were there and we all had a great time. Monday, wife and I drove to Chatanoga to go through Ruby Falls again after 51 years, then home to WV. So far, so good. Worked in the wood shop for the rest of the week. Finished Saturday afternoon. Plenty tired, hot shower, good supper. Of to bed at 9;30. Phone rings at 1:00am, son is on the line with bad news. His mother-in-law woke him, saying she needed him to come quickly, she thought her husband was dying. My son started CPR and had his wife call 911. Ems was there in 4 min. CPR and DFIB did not help. Pronounced dead at hospital. Sunday ( Mothers Day), son called saying he thought he had failed his wife by not being able to help her dad. I told him that he had not, he had given it his best, and you can't save them all. Now we are having to deal with his guilt, but he will do OK. I'm sorry for the death of his father-in law. If there is an up side to this, her dad had spent the week with his daughter and grand daughter. He was just 62.
CamT
Loc: La Porte, Texas
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Went to son and daughter-in-laws home in Tenn. for the weekend of the 2nd. Got to see grand daughter baptized. Daughter-in laws father and his wife were there and we all had a great time. Monday, wife and I drove to Chatanoga to go through Ruby Falls again after 51 years, then home to WV. So far, so good. Worked in the wood shop for the rest of the week. Finished Saturday afternoon. Plenty tired, hot shower, good supper. Of to bed at 9;30. Phone rings at 1:00am, son is on the line with bad news. His mother-in-law woke him, saying she needed him to come quickly, she thought her husband was dying. My son started CPR and had his wife call 911. Ems was there in 4 min. CPR and DFIB did not help. Pronounced dead at hospital. Sunday ( Mothers Day), son called saying he thought he had failed his wife by not being able to help her dad. I told him that he had not, he had given it his best, and you can't save them all. Now we are having to deal with his guilt, but he will do OK. I'm sorry for the death of his father-in law. If there is an up side to this, her dad had spent the week with his daughter and grand daughter. He was just 62.
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Real sad, at least she got to spend some time with him, our prayers for everyone
Grumpus wrote:
Went to son and daughter-in-laws home in Tenn. for the weekend of the 2nd. Got to see grand daughter baptized. Daughter-in laws father and his wife were there and we all had a great time. Monday, wife and I drove to Chatanoga to go through Ruby Falls again after 51 years, then home to WV. So far, so good. Worked in the wood shop for the rest of the week. Finished Saturday afternoon. Plenty tired, hot shower, good supper. Of to bed at 9;30. Phone rings at 1:00am, son is on the line with bad news. His mother-in-law woke him, saying she needed him to come quickly, she thought her husband was dying. My son started CPR and had his wife call 911. Ems was there in 4 min. CPR and DFIB did not help. Pronounced dead at hospital. Sunday ( Mothers Day), son called saying he thought he had failed his wife by not being able to help her dad. I told him that he had not, he had given it his best, and you can't save them all. Now we are having to deal with his guilt, but he will do OK. I'm sorry for the death of his father-in law. If there is an up side to this, her dad had spent the week with his daughter and grand daughter. He was just 62.
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Very sad story Grumpus, I feel for your son, but he did all he could. He has nothing to feel guilty about.
Very sad indeed. Unfortunately, some lives cannot be saved no matter what. He did all he could and even the pros could not help him. Prayers for the family.
Grumpus wrote:
Went to son and daughter-in-laws home in Tenn. for the weekend of the 2nd. Got to see grand daughter baptized. Daughter-in laws father and his wife were there and we all had a great time. Monday, wife and I drove to Chatanoga to go through Ruby Falls again after 51 years, then home to WV. So far, so good. Worked in the wood shop for the rest of the week. Finished Saturday afternoon. Plenty tired, hot shower, good supper. Of to bed at 9;30. Phone rings at 1:00am, son is on the line with bad news. His mother-in-law woke him, saying she needed him to come quickly, she thought her husband was dying. My son started CPR and had his wife call 911. Ems was there in 4 min. CPR and DFIB did not help. Pronounced dead at hospital. Sunday ( Mothers Day), son called saying he thought he had failed his wife by not being able to help her dad. I told him that he had not, he had given it his best, and you can't save them all. Now we are having to deal with his guilt, but he will do OK. I'm sorry for the death of his father-in law. If there is an up side to this, her dad had spent the week with his daughter and grand daughter. He was just 62.
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Sorry to hear that grumpus and I agree there was nothing more your son could have done in that tough situation 🙏
Grumpus wrote:
Went to son and daughter-in-laws home in Tenn. for the weekend of the 2nd. Got to see grand daughter baptized. Daughter-in laws father and his wife were there and we all had a great time. Monday, wife and I drove to Chatanoga to go through Ruby Falls again after 51 years, then home to WV. So far, so good. Worked in the wood shop for the rest of the week. Finished Saturday afternoon. Plenty tired, hot shower, good supper. Of to bed at 9;30. Phone rings at 1:00am, son is on the line with bad news. His mother-in-law woke him, saying she needed him to come quickly, she thought her husband was dying. My son started CPR and had his wife call 911. Ems was there in 4 min. CPR and DFIB did not help. Pronounced dead at hospital. Sunday ( Mothers Day), son called saying he thought he had failed his wife by not being able to help her dad. I told him that he had not, he had given it his best, and you can't save them all. Now we are having to deal with his guilt, but he will do OK. I'm sorry for the death of his father-in law. If there is an up side to this, her dad had spent the week with his daughter and grand daughter. He was just 62.
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Please remind your son he should feel no guilt whatsoever, he did all he could do. So sorry for his loss.
Way too young. Sorry Grumpus.
Thanks to all of you for your caring replys. Son (and the rest of us) will get on with our lives as time passes. Again thank you all.
Grumpus wrote:
Went to son and daughter-in-laws home in Tenn. for the weekend of the 2nd. Got to see grand daughter baptized. Daughter-in laws father and his wife were there and we all had a great time. Monday, wife and I drove to Chatanoga to go through Ruby Falls again after 51 years, then home to WV. So far, so good. Worked in the wood shop for the rest of the week. Finished Saturday afternoon. Plenty tired, hot shower, good supper. Of to bed at 9;30. Phone rings at 1:00am, son is on the line with bad news. His mother-in-law woke him, saying she needed him to come quickly, she thought her husband was dying. My son started CPR and had his wife call 911. Ems was there in 4 min. CPR and DFIB did not help. Pronounced dead at hospital. Sunday ( Mothers Day), son called saying he thought he had failed his wife by not being able to help her dad. I told him that he had not, he had given it his best, and you can't save them all. Now we are having to deal with his guilt, but he will do OK. I'm sorry for the death of his father-in law. If there is an up side to this, her dad had spent the week with his daughter and grand daughter. He was just 62.
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Wow sorry to hear this, 62 is way to young! My prayers go out to you and your family! Hang in there bud!
Thoughts and prayers to you all
So sorry, your family are in my prayers!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I used to be a firefighter, and I went on a lot of emergency medical calls. I learned this: The outcome isn't up to us! We'd get a call and arrive in a minute and a half to find a heart attack - it'd be a reasonably young and fit man who'd been in good health. We'd do our best but then lose him. On another call, we'd be called to a frail old guy in his 80's who'd collapsed 5 or 6 minutes ago. No breathing, no pulse. We'd start chest compressions and get goose bumps when we'd hear all kinds of cracking and crunching from the compressions. Darned if that guy didn't make it. Your only responsibility is to do your best!
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